I had worked this one out for myself, some time ago but it was summed up in something that Lucy McLean wrote. One simple line replaced a whole essay.
To thine own self be true
I’ve probably misquoted that, I’m a big fan of watching the works of Shakespeare but I’m damned if I going to read Shakespeare. It is a fact of life that we all have to present an image to the world and cannot show the chinks in our armour. But it is important to know where we are strong and use those strengths and know where we are weak and compensate for those weaknesses. An exercise that some people find very difficult.
Listen to people who say “What I did” and not to the people who say “what I would do”
It is a natural human reaction to give advice but no theorizing can ever take the place of actual experience. If you have a problem or are facing a situation that is hard to cope with, listen to people who have already dealt with the same hardship and emerged successfully from their dilemma and see if their solution could work for you.
Don’t stand under a falling tree
This one isn’t the advice itself, it represents all the practical stuff that you hear. You can live by the best philosophies in the world but if you get yourself killed, by being stupid, these philosophies don’t count for squat.
When it comes to people, presume nothing, learn who they are
I wish my Dad had told me this one, it was the type of thing that he would have said, if he had thought about it. I was actually given this by a lecturer, during my student days.