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>Some Things That Pro Tops And Dommes Should Be Aware Of (Part One)

>Please do not think that I am on an anti professional Top/Domme, from these posts, I am not. On the contrary. The majority of interactions that I have had with those that provide these services have been very positive and I would recommend to any bottom or sub that they should consider employing the services of a competent, professional Top or Domme, especially if they are new to being on the receiving end. But I have had a few qualms and niggles over the years and when I saw THIS POST from Cassie Hunter, which I thought was a very pertinent reflection on what a potential client should not do, it did inspire me to write some points of what a pro Domme or Top should be aware of, when dealing with me as a potential client. These posts is addressed to the professionals out there but I hope that the rest of you enjoy them too. The second part will be posted on Wednesday.

I’m not a Sub, I AM A BOTTOM!

LIVE WITH IT!

I act submissively in play only. When playing you can call me all the names under the sun and expect me to follow your orders damn quick or else (please do, I love it) but up until the second that play starts and after play ends, treat me with the same courtesy and respect that you expect me to show to you. There is nothing wrong with Dommes that deal with subs only but if this is you, make it clear in your advertising or early correspondence and then I will not waste your time and you will not waste mine, because I will know that I am not the kind of client that you are seeking. If you don’t know the difference between a bottom and a sub you are not knowledgeable enough to be charging for your services, go away and do your homework. If your one of these types (happily they seem to be very few and far between) who do not believe in the existence of bottoms and say that there are only subs, then your are a fool and an idiot and are not trustworthy enough to be let loose with toys on anyone’s hide.

NO! I am not going to redesign or maintain your bloody garden for free, whist I am there


I am a professional Horticulturalist and a very well qualified and experienced one at that, who is also bloody good at what I do. Horticulture is how I make my money, if I start giving my services away for free I will not be able to make enough money to pay for your services. I am however open to the suggestion of exchanging my skills for yours but remember I am seriously good at what I do and the exchange rate is not three working days of my time for one hour of yours (as one misguided lady suggested) but ONE HOUR OF MY TIME FOR ONE HOUR OF YOURS! And considering that nine times out of ten, I am likely to be a more experienced hortic than you are a Top/Domme, then you will be getting a bit of a bargain at that rate. I will never ask you for a discount or a freebie, for your professional services, so do not ask the same for my professional services.

Don’t show a false face


DON’T! just don’t even consider it. Never claim anything in correspondence that will not be so when we meet face to face, thinking that this is an acceptable thing to do. IT IS NOT ACCEPTABLE AND NEVER WILL BE! It would not expect you to find this acceptable if I did it to you, so do not even consider doing it to me.

Part 2 on Wednesday

Prefectdt

2 responses »

  1. >I respect your blog, and how you stand up for yourself.Heck, in my opinion quite a few Dommes/Mistresses could do with a warning that not all SUBS are door mats either. Everyone involved in consensual BDSM is a human being first and foremost. It often takes courage to do what you've done because not only are many female tops/Dommes/Mistresses (to include all categories of dominant ladies)very popular, but one can almost always count on some submissive male to come out swinging or white-knighting to defend the "honor" of the lady, no matter how dishonerably or selfishly she might have behaved.I'm a bottom/switch with a bit of a bratty side. I try to treat dommes AND Mistresses with respect, knowing they have different expectations of behaviour and farther knowing that such expectations are tailored to each individual woman. I find your blog to be very insightful and I wish you well.

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  2. >Thanks Anon, it's gratifying to know that someone appreciates the effort.Although the greater majority of professionals working in this area are very good people, there are one or two bad ones around. However this post and the next one, are not really aimed at either of these groups but more the good ones who could do with stopping and thinking about one or two things. It must be difficult for someone to asses their selves sometimes, when they are surrounded by people who are constantly agreeing with them.Thanks for the comment Anon, it was very enlightening.Prefectdt

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