The automatic, knee jerk reaction to adult spanking, from many vanillas is that it is abuse (especially in M/f situations). If the spankee is consensual in the play they are obviously wrong but explaining this to a vanilla can often be very difficult. This weeks Thought is something that I can only hope will go some way to defining the difference between a consensual spanking and abuse.
A Top leads by spanking
Not by Force
(Source – Converted from a saying by Sun Tzu)