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A BUTT CHALLENGE VOTE

In the comments on a post in this blog last week, morningstar threw down a bit of a gauntlet. You can visit morningstar’s blog through this link

THE CONTINUED JOURNEY

Her comment simply said

LOL
welllllllll Prefectdt – post some male bottoms and we ladies will gladly point out the cute ones

This is because I have no idea what constitutes a cute, male rear end. So I fired up Google Search and went hunting for some boy butt images and I would like to invite you to vote on them. I see no reason why the male readers out there should also not have an opinion on the matter, if they so choose. So simply list your favourites by number in the comment section with most favourite first and least favourite last and help guide me on what is and is not hot where the male posterior is concerned

Number 1

A bubble butt

Number 2

A muscle butt

Number 3

An idy bidy butt

Number 4

An athletic butt

Number 5

A plus-sized butt

Number 6

A twinky butt

I am very curious as to what peoples choices will be. As I said before, I have absolutely no clue as to which of these butts is hot and which is not

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A LAST MINUTE GIFT IDEA FOR ANY NEWBIES TO KINK THAT YOU MIGHT KNOW

It seems to me that if you are trying to find a Christmas gift for any newbie kinky friends that you know an informative reference poster, to put up in their bedroom or new play room might be a good idea. Plus they are easy to post, in these times when just popping round with a gift in person might be unwise. So here are a few that you might consider.

An instruction for a handy bondage pattern

Some buttocks basics

Every heterosexual male should have this above their bed, kinky or not

A guide to implement results

A chart for good ethical play

A guide to play styles

And finally the after care chart

You have to admit, for those still learning the ropes (and floggers for that matter), it is better to have an easy reference poster to glance at rather than to keep stopping play to trawl through reference books 🙂

A Kinky Christmas Card

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DOMME DOLLS, A CHRISTMAS GIFT IDEA

Not so long ago I made a post about submissive dolls, that you can see through the link below

SUBMISSIVE DOLLS, A CHRISTMAS GIFT IDEA

So lets even up the score for the submissives out there, looking forward to shuffling downstairs on Christmas day, their restraining chains clanking as they excitedly open their presents to hopefully find a nice dominant doll set beneath the wrapping paper.

Dungeon Delilah

A belting Barbie and caned Ken set

Swishing Swedish Sue and Gary the gimp

Rough riding Rita

Teasing Tess and stand up Stan

Whiplash Wendy

The corporal Chloe and private Man set

Just think of all the fun a submissive could have, playing out their favourite CP scenarios on top of the desk that they will later be bent over for their Christmas caning 🙂

A Bondage Christmas Card

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SUBMISSIVE DOLLS, A CHRISTMAS GIFT IDEA

Have you been wracking your brains trying to find the perfect Christmas gift for your Top or Dom(me) this year? Worry no further. Imagine as they run down stairs, their leather pajamas squeaking as they rummage under the tree to unwrap that gift and find that they have a bright shiny new submissive dolly to play with. They will get so exited that they might drop their flogger. There seems to be a good range to choose from.

Floggable Floella

Open Ophelia

Pilloried Polly

Bar Babe Betty

Cinder Spreader

St Andrew’s Cross Andrea

If your Top or Dom(me) has been very very very good this year perhaps they deserve a life sized submissive doll

Or are those last two just a way to sneak an extra guest into the house for Christmas Dinner?

Legal notice – Dolls are not guaranteed for candle or heat play, excessive impact play, tattooing, needle play, scat play (EWE!) or any activity exceeding their hard limits or safe words.

A Kinky Christmas Card

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THE GUILTY FEMINIST INSPIRED KINKMOPOLITAN’S TOP TEN TIPS ON HOW TO KNOW THAT YOUR DOMME STILL LOVES YOU – A REPOST

Sorry to all of you but I have been sorting some stuff out for a hospital visit next week and just ran out of time to put a post together tonight (Thursday the 26th). And anyway I was kind of proud of this post and as it went live not long after I returned to blogging it didn’t get many visitors then. So I don’t think that many people saw it at the time. I hope that you enjoy it

What inspired this post

Because of EVENTS SOME YEARS AGO I could not watch much television for quite some time. To fill the entertainment gap I listened to BBC RADIO 4 and a lot of Podcasts. Now that I can watch TV again, I find that I am not missing it and so did not bother getting reconnected to the normal TV supply network. Now I only have Netflix and am still listening to a lot of stuff. A podcast that I have only recently discovered is THE GUILTY FEMINIST, which I strongly recommend. One of the episodes FEATURED THE WAY THAT MANY WOMEN’S MAGAZINES ARE WRITTEN and that is well worth listening to. That inspired me to create the fictional magazine Kinkmopolitan and to write this post in the style of such publications as COSMOPOLITAN and VOGUE. As I am not a BDSMer and have never been in a 24/7 relationship, by the standards of these magazines I am well qualified to wax lyrical about the subject. In fact, because I know what BDSM means, without having to Google it, I am probably over qualified.

Kinkmopolitan’s top ten tips on how a male BDSM submissive can tell that his Domme loves him

Imagine the scene, you can tell that the sun is setting by the way that the shadow of the bars on the window are crawling up the cold stone wall. You flex your muscles to test the rope binding you as you lie on the hard floor of your cage. You can feel your pulse through your fresh welts and the taste of stiletto still lingers in your mouth. All of this should make a guy feel secure, as he drifts off to sleep but still there is that lingering thought in the back of your mind that asks “Does My Domme Really Love Me?”.

Here are Kinkmopolitan’s top ten things to look out for, that proves that a Domme still loves her sub and is not just making do until someone with a higher pain tolerance comes along.

You know that your Domme loves you when….

NUMBER 1

She does her best not to fart, when she is sitting on your face

Number 2

Your food bowl has ‘WHO’S A GOOD BOY’ written on it

Number 3

When she screams “VAGINA FACE!” at you and you know that it is an instruction and not her nick name for you

Number 4

She makes sure that you have a nice comfy pillow, in your cage, to rest your head on

Number 5

Only she gets to use you as a chair and not 3 or 4 of her friends, all at once

Number 6

She makes sure that you are well lubed up before inserting the giant butt plug

Number 7

She always keeps her promise to untie you in the morning

Number 8

She uses a special set of cloths pegs for your zipper and does not just use the ones from the washing line

Number 9

She never ties your wrists so tightly that your hands turn purple and you pass out

Number 10

She does not make you walk the dog in your Sissy Maid outfit

So now you know that your Domme still loves you and you can drift off to the land of nod, safe in the knowledge that tomorrow will be another wonderful day, filled with pain and humiliation. Good night Mr man slave.

The images used in this post came from SPANKED HUBBY, SOCIETY 6, ADULT SMART SEX TOY BLOG, KATIE BUCKLEITNER, MEDIUM.COM, CANDY STAVROULAKIS, and CONSENSUAL SPANKING.

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PS

I am a feminist but – I did not write this in a NON BINARY or GENDER NEUTRAL fashion because that would have been too much of a faf about

IS YOUR SPANKER SITTING COMFORTABLY? THEN WE WILL BEGIN

A spankee must always consider the comfort of their spanker. A spanker on an inadequate perch might lose focus on the job of making us spankees feel most uncomfortable, in the rear area 🙂 So here are a few suggestions on ensuring your spanker is not anguished whilst carrying out their duty.

A well upholstered arm chair is always a safe bet

If nothing else is available offer yourself as a convenient resting place

If your spanker wants to use a new piece of furniture or position, ask them to try it out before committing themselves to a possibly cramp inducing spanking

A bed is always a good, soft place to sit and if the spanker gets all tuckered out from spanking you, they can always just lie back and take a rest

And finally, if you are both in bed already, there is absolutely no reason why either of you should get cold tootsies

That concludes this short guide to providing your spanker with suitable seating

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