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RED LIGHTS TO GET A GREEN LIGHT IN BELGIUM

Sex Work Is Set To Get A Better Legal Status In Belgium

Why do I care about this? I do not pay for, what I consider, sexual services but I do on occasions employ the skills of professional Dommes and Disciplinarians and they come under the classification of sex workers. Some of them do offer sexual services, I do not seek that part of their services, they are offered but are not compulsory. Many only offer BDSM services. Apart from the dress code being somewhat different, I do not see that there is much difference between a non sex service offering Domme and a professional Masseur but society here tends not to agree with me.

What is the situation at the moment?

At this time it is technically legal to participate in paid for sexual services in Belgium, both for the provider and the client. However, this law is overly simple and has a clause to stop a third party from profiting from this transaction. This was designed to penalize pimps and people traffickers and I agree with their activities being restricted or hopefully stopped. BUT, and it is a big but, this law was badly written and can be interpreted that anyone taking money earned from sex work can be prosecuted. For example, if a sex worker uses his or her hard-earned cash to buy a loaf of bread, then the bakery that sells that bread can be prosecuted for profiting from the earnings of sex work. This area of the law is at the discretion of municipalities (Towns and City councils) to apply or not apply as they see fit. As a result some local authorities have effectively totally banned sex work whilst others allow sex work on the professional’s own property or in a brothel or even in Red Light window areas, in some towns. There is a news article that explains this better than I can, it is linked below

NO MAN’S LAND: BELGIUM’S RED LIGHT DISTRICT

The Problem

This has left Belgian sex workers in a grey area of being neither officially employed nor unemployed or self-employed, although they are still expected to pay taxes on their earnings and I believe that most of them do. This has been a greater problem recently as due to a certain global pandemic many of them have not been able to work for long periods of time and due to their uncertain employment state, have not been entitled to any of the benefits afforded to others that have been effected by the crisis. There have understandably been some protests about this, such as the one in a news article that is linked below

SEX WORKERS PROTEST

What Is Happening Now?

The Justice Minister for Belgium, Vincent Van Quickenborne (Flemish liberal), will hopefully be getting the law changed to take away the vagaries about both the status of Sex Workers and where and when they can spend their taxed earnings. And about time too, in my opinion. You can read a short news article about this in the link below

TOTAL DECRIMINALIZATION OF SEX WORK IN BELGIUM

I hope that this post has left you more informed and hopefully not been too boring

Prefectdt

MUSING ABOUT CHICKS WITH DICKS

Or About Pegging To Be More Precise

A post on another blog got me thinking about this. The author, Fondles, informed us about a little anal training that she has been doing, in preparation for some Butt Stuff fun that she is planning. You can read about it via….

THIS LINK

I have not been pegged in over a decade but reading this post brought back some fond memories. I have never asked nor will I ever ask to be pegged but I am happy to accommodate a play partner that wishes to take part in some girl in boy fun, if they are prepared to be sensible about it

Don’t turn up wearing something like this

Unless you want to hear me screaming SAFEWORD!!! Repeatedly. I prefer something of more sensible proportions. Something similar to the size of my own appendage seems fair

That’s more like it

What I Like About Pegging

I think that the best thing about letting a woman penetrate you, is that it is me that is giving her the permission to do so. Which is not only a nice change but represents a high level of submission in my mind. Far more than being spanked, which is a lot more fun but does not have that same level of offering trust of subjugation to someone that letting them fulfil their desire to penetrate you does. And that is why I will only take part in pegging when I am asked to, by the other individual involved, as it is my submitting to their desire that clicks the right buttons in my head.

Position

This is fine

If it is the kind of thing that the woman involved wants. I am happy to go along with this

But this is my favourite position

I like to feel the weight of her body on me and her skin against my skin as I feel her moving against my body. Her hot laboured breath on my shoulders and the noise of her efforts close to my ear. It just makes the experience so more personal, especially if she manages to orgasm from the psychology of the event or with a little mechanical help. It makes me feel like I have served to satisfy

I wonder if something like this could be used?

Or would it be too difficult for her to retain during the act. I have only experienced a butterfly vibrator being used under the pelvic harness but that worked well πŸ™‚

What I Don’t Like about being pegged

Two things. Firstly doing a deep colonic cleanse, I have always found this difficult and it can take me hours to get every thing squeaky clean, sometimes. Secondly having an uncomfortable lump of man-made dildo shoved up where the sun does not shine, although it helps if she is a little rough and makes things a bit painful for me, without causing any damage back there. But I think that it is the second one of these that makes doing this such a significant act of submission for me.

Giving Selfless Gratification To Someone

I have never orgasmed from being pegged and have always refused any offered help to achieve that end, either before or after the event. Although if the female involved reached her high from the event, that makes it perfect for me. Spanking is a lot of fun but it is mostly about the chemical high that it can achieve in my body and mind. Pegging is about achieving the psychological high of getting someone else to the place they want to be whilst giving totally of myself without expecting reward. It is my ultimate act of submissiveness. And that is why I will never be the one asking to do this or have it part of a pay to play.

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MAKING TRACKS

Train Bondage

In

THIS POST

AND THIS POST

Two floating kinky events were featured. This inspired me to search out more transport based BDSM occurrences. I thought that there might be a train based event somewhere. I was imagining a more spanko type of affair that took place at one of the vintage railway lines, a bit like the Hogwarts Express but with canes instead of wands. I was to be disappointed in my search but did find that railways seem to be very popular amongst the bondage community.

The classic tied to the tracks, a favourite ever since moving pictures were invented

Bondage in a rail carriage

Even on a rail carriage

Once, on a news report, a porn star said that they had made films of all the possibilities for sexual activities except driving a train up it. Well perhaps she was wrong?

I even found some Hentai train bondage

There is some cartoon based bondage available too πŸ™‚

And you can tell when you are in the right station for these activities

Here we reach the terminus of this post. Hope you had a pleasant ride

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ANOTHER FLOATING KINK EVENT

On Friday I posted about a German annual Kink event on Lake Constance in the post

THE TORTURE BOAT

It seems that there is another annual floating BDSM event in London that has been going for even longer, 26 years up until 2019. Although I doubt if 2020 or 2021 will see this floating inferno let’s hope that it is revived in future years. I have found some promotional videos for this annual pain and kink cruise that where made to promote the 2019 sailing. Enjoy πŸ™‚

The Boat By The Firm

I love some of the promotional artwork for the last video. It is so much better than just photos πŸ™‚

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THE TORTURE BOAT

All Aboard The AARGH! Boat

I was a bit surprised when I stumbled across a newspaper article about this kinky, German, floating pain palace. You can read more about it through this link

TORTURE SHIP CARRIES 500 BDSM ENTHUSIASTS ON A KINKY TOUR

Although I doubt if this happened in 2020, 2019 saw the 23rd celebration of this event

The event takes place on Lake Constance in southern Germany

I’m not sure if any actual play happens on board but even if it does not, this looks like a great way for kinksters to get together for a day out on the water

Let us hope that this event is revived once the present crisis has passed. Until then I did manage to find a video of participants boarding for a kinky gathering on the lake

The World’s Best Dressed Navy

Time to raise the sails and spanker πŸ™‚

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IN CYBERSPACE NO ONE CAN HEAR YOU SAFE WORD

This is an ASMR video. That is a video recorded through special microphones so that the sound is like you are in the same room, if you listen through headphones, it does not work through speakers. That is unimportant though. The point is what happens to the video producer, whilst she is making this video. It starts a little boringly so you might want to skip to about 40 seconds in, if you are short of time.

Be Careful With Self Bondage πŸ™‚

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