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Longing For The Sweet Harsh Kiss Of The Open Hand

It must be nearly two years now since I last presented my bare buttocks for a hand spanking

For me it did not use to represent the high point of spanking play but absence has made the heart grow fonder

Now I long for the heat of thighs beneath me, the feeling of muscles in motion as the hand is brought crashing down upon tender flesh, over and over in a heavenly nightmare of rapidly repeated impacts, exploding in wonderful pain

To be honest with you I long for the physical, skin to skin touch of any human being right now, pain play related or just normal vanilla contact. But at the top of my list of desires for the human touch, the magnificent submission of being over a woman’s knee and hearing palm striking bottom, holds a high summit

Back in February of this year, I arranged to go for a coffee with a friend in a nearby town. When we met we shook hands. That was the last time that I had physical, skin to skin contact with another human being. Eight months ago

Now I long for skin to skin contact in it’s most gloriously extreme form as someone drives their hand so hard into a buttock, it is as if they are trying to create enough heat to weld the two together

I was lucky enough to get a successful play date back in June, which considering my circumstances combined with the difficulties of the pandemic, leaves me feeling very happy that I had the opportunity to enjoy that this year. But by mutual agreement both of us decided to keep as much distance as is humanly possible whilst in a spanking play situation. We did this with the use of a belt two floggers and a cane. But I have to admit that the interaction lacked somewhat, from not being able to get close up and personal. O! I want a hand spanking so much right now

I guess that the old saying is true “You don’t know what you’ve got till it’s gone”

Let’s hope that this all ends soon and we can all get back to some sort of normality



Pencil Skirts That Is

There is just something so complimentary to the female form, about the way that these hip, thigh and bottom hugging garments fit to the wearer

Like most males that like to bend over and take some punishment, I do have sexual fantasies about spanking scenarios. And in these imagined interactions I very often find the spanker is wearing a pencil skirt.

But when actually playing, like most male bottoms and subs, I find that sexual activity is not something that I want at that time. Most find, as I do, that spanking makes any trouser excitement go away or not appear in the first place.

But even when sex is not in the mix, pencil skirts are an attire that exudes authority and control. They are just so neat and tidy and no nonsense.

So if imagining a sexy interaction with a fantasy Top.

Or actually bending over and receiving my just desserts in real life.

Pencil skirts always seem appropriate πŸ™‚

I wonder who first designed this wonderful garment?



I would like to start by saying that I am not into transvestism or transsexualism in any way and I have got nothing against anyone who finds that either of those labels applies to them. But, in the little fantasy world inside my mind, I do often find my self wishing I was of the female persuasion, just for spanking play. It just seems to me that women have it better, as submissives.

Women Have Nicer Bottoms

At some point in most spanking play the undercrackers come down and it is time for the big reveal. But even in my younger and skinnier days I could not have shown someone a sight as glorious as that in the image above. Even guys who spend half their lives at the gym and are sporting buns of steel seldom look so physically artistic. It is just a fact that the female posterior has a greater potential to be hot hot hot.

It’s Easier For Women To Find Play Partners

I’m not saying that it is always easy for a submissive female to find the right play partner but any woman who is looking for a spanking will not find herself short of offers. In the F/m world you find far too many little m’s chasing after far too few big F’s. It’s just the way it is.

Women Are More Flexible Than Men

Or at least they are in their younger guises. I doubt that I could have ever sustained a pose like the one above for the length of time it takes to get a proper whooping. And I was physically pretty flexible for a guy, in my younger days.

Women Look Better In Clothes

Especially uniforms. The male shape is just not a right for things to fit where they should. No matter how careful I am putting a spanking play outfit together I know that it is never going to look as good on me as the equivalent outfit would look on a woman.

Women Won’t Get Labelled For Same Sex Play

A woman can be straight, lesbian or bisexual but no one would automatically conclude that she was any of these just because she was involved in spanking or being spanked by another woman. I do not usually involve sex as part of my spanking play and so have no problems with being spanked by a man, except that some people might label me as gay for doing so. I have nothing against the gay community in the same way as I have nothing against anyone from Spain but I do not want to have anyone presume that I am gay or Spanish, simply because I am neither of these.

I suspect that I am not the only male submissive who is a little jealous of our female counterparts. But perhaps it is just as the parody of the song sung by Petula Clark says

The other subs ass is always redder

That paddle hurts better from the other side

Oh the other subs ass is always redder

Some are lucky, some are not

You’ve gotta be thankful for what you got

Some of the images used in this post came from the blogs linked below






I feel like one of the boys in a line outside of the Head Mistresses study. Hearing the distinctive swoosh of rattan cutting the air, as the line grows steadily shorter and it is closer to it being my turn to bend over that desk. Why? Because when I was away on vacation I did and saw nothing kink related and did not do my blog homework and have not prepared a post for my return from the holiday. But luckily I saw a couple of posts from other bloggers, SPANKED TO ORGASM from Heart and Soul and MOST POPULAR POST EVER ON THIS BLOG from Consensual Spanking, about the most popular posts that they have ever had on their blogs. So I thought that I would tell you about my most popular post ever.


It Featured This Photograph




I just put it up for a bit of a laugh but it got a lot of people visiting the blog. My stat counters have always been set at Unique Visitors and not page views, so I do not know how many page views this post received but at the height of this blogs popularity I could expect to see between 1200 and 1500 unique visitors in a day (I feel lucky to get a tenth of that now). This post attracted over 2700 visitors in one day. That has never been bettered.

For the original post click on THIS LINK



>Bottom Shaped Pizzas

>Well I’m only human and sometimes I just end up Googling the strange things that come into my head and so one of those strange things was “Bottom Shaped Pizza”. Normally this kind of thing does not yield much of a result but this time there was quite a good haul of images. I thought that I would share a few of them with you.

Confession – The story at the start of this post (apart from the bit about Googling weird things sometimes) is a total fabrication and the images in the post have been tampered with to achieve the desired results. I should be spanked for such subterfuge (applications for executioner to the email in the side bar). πŸ™‚


>Confessions of a sexual nature


Forgive me Farther for I have sinned

It has been nearly two years since my last confession and I am still a Twelve ‘o’ clock flasher. There are some things that I do not understand about myself and because I don’t want to seem abnormal I play along with everyone else. This leaves a feeling of guilt and it is time to confess some of these guilty secrets.

Forgive me Father but womens breasts just aren’t that sexy to me

photo from Kinky Ink Tattoos

Don’t get me wrong, I have nothing against breasts but I just cannot see the big deal. They don’t seem any more or less sexy than knees or hands or elbows. The only concern that I can see, is that they should be in general proportion with the rest of their owners body. And falsies, what a joke. Large breasts, small breast, in the middle breast, what’s the big deal? I just don’t get why breasts are considered so individually sexy.

Forgive me Farther I just don’t fancy women who are bottoms or submissive

photos from Pandora’s Blog, Spanking Pixie and Leia’s New Musings!

I am not singling out the three ladies above, they are just there as very good looking examples. This one I really need taking to task over, this turns me into a real smug b*****d. I’m not sure why but when a woman is bent over and taking some, she looses all sexual attraction to me. This is when my smug mode kicks in, I can still see she is a beautiful woman and be fully appreciative of her female attributes but unlike when I see a lass topping, for example, the trouser snake does not take over the thought process and I can appreciate her just for her looks, on an aesthetic and intellectual level. In short I become insufferable git, who thinks he has got one over on all the guys dribbling over the pretty spankee.

Forgive me Father for I think that womens shoulders are as hot as hell

This I don’t understand. I have never met another guy who can be turned on by collar bones and well toned shoulder blades, as I can. But it has it’s up side, a little sunny warm weather and more than half the women in the high street are walking around in a state, that to me, is the same as topless to other guys πŸ™‚ By the way, any women reading this might want to check out THIS SITE

Now it’s time to do penance.