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SANITY SAVING ELECTRIC SPANKER

A Note About The GIFs In This Post

The GIFs in this post have nothing to do with the written part of the post. This post is about a device that I use to give myself an electric equivalent of a spanking and to be honest might be a little dry to some people. This is still a general entertainment, spanking blog, so the GIFs, of other people enjoying very different kinds of electric play than I use, are simply there to entertain everyone.

Getting Spanked By The Sanitas SEM 44 Electric Muscle Stimulation Device

I told nora, in the comments to one of her post, of the blog…

FINDING STRENGTH IN MY SUBMISSION

that I should one day do a post about the machine that saved my sanity, during the COVID-19 lockdowns, by administering electric spankings to my rear end, when no other options were available. And this is that post.

I have posted before about another electric device that I have, twice…

IN THIS POST

AND THIS POST

The Sanitas device is different to that one, which is from MyStim, a dedicated BDSM play device, that is better used between two people. The Sanitas device is a generally available, TENS, EMS and electric massage unit. I got it at my local Lidl, a discount food store, that remained open during the lockdowns. It was not very expensive, less than 30 Euros, although I cannot remember the exact price now. It was a case of thinking that it might be worth a shot and if it did not work out, not much money had been lost. Luckily for me, it was a winner.

During the lockdowns and the periods in between, when it was still not possible to play with anyone else, I had tried self spanking, but this does not do anything for me. My emotional, psychological and mental state were starting to suffer, due to the lack of spankings. The Sanitas SEM 44 helped to rectify this situation. It has three modes, TENS (transcutaneous electrical nerve stimulation), EMS (electrical muscle stimulation) and electrical massage.

I found that program 31 in the EMS mode could deliver the electrical equivalent of a spanking to the buttocks. Two of the sticky pads should be attached to the crown of the buttocks (not the sit spot, as I first thought), about a closed hand’s width apart, symmetrically, either side of the butt crack.

I then set the unit to EMS mode program 31. This can be varied in intensity from a grade of 1 to 50, on the device. I found that anything above 35 could produce a painful sensation. The device can then be left to run on a timer and required no more interaction from me. This program went in cycles that started with a tensing of the butt muscles, uncomfortable but not painful, then went on to a sensation that was like sweet relief washing across my rear end muscles. The third action was a few seconds of no stimulation and then the fourth, electrical pulse (that I nicknamed the cane stroke effect) sent a painful sensation across the buttocks for a period of about 20 seconds. The program then runs on its own, repeating these four sensations, until the allotted time is up. At maximum intensity (50) I could do little else but lie face down on my bed and process the pain. All this from 3 AAA batteries.

This was not as good as getting a spanking from a real life person, but it was better than self spanking. This is because, once the program was started, I did not have to do anything myself, except concentrate on the pain, that I was experiencing. It might be a useful device to use for those that are distanced from their disciplinarian or for whatever reason cannot interact with another live human being, for a spanking. It definitely helped save my sanity during the period of COVID-19.

I hope that the written part of that post was helpful to some people and that everyone else was entertained by the GIFs.

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PILLOW HUGGING AND SPANKING

It’s A Thing I Do

At the start of a spanking, before the magic dust starts filling my mind and it just hurts and I am thinking “Why the hell do I do this”, If there is a pillow or cushion within reach I tend to grab it and hug it to my chest, like in the photograph below.

I am not sure why, but I find it comforting and it helps me get through the part when the pain is horrible, that you need to go through, before the pain becomes good and all that I want it to be.

Sometimes this is not possible

As you might need your hands and arms to stop your head banging of the floor, when OTK.

And other types of hugs are nice, after a spanking

Some spankees prefer to have something to grab, rather than hug. Sofa cushions are excellent for this, as is illustrated in…

This Photo

Or in this GIF

But I think that I have found my ultimate spanking cushion to hug

Here it is

Just think of all the hugging options, that it can offer

It’s time to go shopping 🙂

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HOW TO BUILD A SPANKING CHAPEL – OR A GREAT ROOM THAT WAS AT THE CHĂ‚TEAUX OF THE PRINCE’S OF CHIMAY

The Surprising Little Church At The Châteaux In Chimay

Whilst on my recent travels, there was an opportunity to visit the princely castle of Chimay. Which is in a beautiful little town in Wallonia of the same name, famous for its beer, cheese and being the last non-royal principality of Belgium. The castle was gutted by fire in 1935, losing much of its Baroque furniture and interior decoration. Over the last few decades, some rooms have been restored to their former glory, including…

The Chapel

Which is a very pretty place for Catholic worship. But the more that I looked around, the more that images like…

This

Started to flash into my imagination. It became clear to me that, some hundreds of years ago, someone had said, to a baroque interior designer, “Build Me A Spanking Church”.

The Prayer Kneelers

The first of these, that I noticed, were these

Excellent for kneeling on to receive a back flogging or bending over the other way for a holy birching. Just a nice height for either of these activities and comfortably padded…

Unlike Some Others That I have Seen

But when I turned around…

There Were Some Even Better Ones

That were far more sturdy, solid and unlikely to move around during a severe punishment of a sinner, under the torment of a holy lash. And even more…

One For Chastising A Pair Of Sinners At The Same Time

And then I noticed the general seating of the chapel which were just the right size, height and shape to be…

Padded Birching Benches

Which could easily be used…

Like This

Or This

I suppose you have to have a spankos mindset to see what the designer had in mind, when furnishing this Chapel. But there are some spiritual spankos out there who need a friendly place to pray and play, sometimes. Perhaps this is the place for them.

🙂

This post was inspired by the Netflix series

HOW TO BUILD A SEX ROOM

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CURIOSITY SATISFIED

I decided to participate in March questions month and here are the answers that I have given. The questions are ranked in chronological order from the first asked to the last

morningstar Asked

I know you go to pro dommes (I’m right aren’t I?)
Do you find spankings arouse you? and if they do……. is it difficult considering the spanking isn’t with a primary partner?

You are right morningstar I do employ the skills of pro Dommes and Disciplinarians, including those of the lady in the photograph above. Fantasizing about spankings arouses me but actually being spanked has the opposite effect and I find that I would much rather enjoy the spanking and the high that it gives me, than participate in “Adult happy Time”. I have participated in sexual activities in play situations in the past but this was to satisfy the desires of the other party involved and not for my gratification. I also play with fellow amateur enthusiasts but I will not be likely to write about those encounters on this blog

Naughty Nora Asked

Hmmmm….well, as you have probably gathered, my particular kink is spanking as discipline. Could you share with your readers about a memorable time you were spanked for being naughty? Or, if that doesn’t apply….perhaps you could share about your most memorable spanking?

Nora I play for fun and the high that I get from playing. BUT I have always aspired to be a stoic spankee and I do not always achieve that, being a bit of a dancer and flincher when taking some. When I cannot control myself whilst playing, I feel better if I am punished for that at the time rather than beating myself up mentally about it for weeks afterwards. Once some time ago I was being caned and repeatedly blocked with my left hand. I requested that I be dealt with for this offence but the person I was playing with was reluctant to be more harsh as we were already playing very hard. She told me to sit on the table, that I had been bending over and then gave me six hard cane strokes on the front of my thighs. I did not like this, neither psychologically nor the type of pain it caused. The threat of it happening again proved to be an effective deterrent and I kept my ordered positions for the rest of the play session.

Fondles asked

Would you name 3 implements that are employed regularly (or have been in the past) besides the hand, on your behind (or your spankee’s behind) and rank them in order of preference pls

Number 3 – Belt

Number 2 – Flogger

Number 1 – Cane

morningstar Asked Again

I am curious how you came to live where you do? I know your parents are in Britain…

My parents are now both deceased but did live in the UK. I found work with an organization that operates internationally. First they sent me to The Netherlands and then they sent me to Belgium. Then they wanted to send me back to the UK and I did not want to go back there and so left that organization and found work here in Belgium and decided to settle here permanently

KDPierre Asked

In what capacity do you use your botanical skills? Vegetable yields? Garden design? Something else? As a gardener with small ponds, I’m curious.

And

Also……….what is your opinion of Affligem Tripel?

I am afraid that I have not tried that beer yet. There are so many to get through in Belgium but I will give it a go next time that I see it

By qualification, I am an Amenity Horticulturist specializing in the use of plants and other ornamental green stuff in areas to be used by people. I have designed and created maintenance plans, am a trained and experienced adult instructor and my personal specialities are in topiary and herbaceous perennials although I am skilled in many other aspects of ornamental and utilitarian horticulture. Having said that I currently and for some years now, only working as a professional gardener, due to having less than perfect written Dutch and my own desires to keep my hands in the earth and avoid a desk job

Roz Asked

As I understand it (please correct me if I am wrong), you have experienced being both spanker and spankee. Which is your preference?

And

Where in the world would you like visit (when that becomes an option again)?

The next place to tick off is a trip to the Rhine Gorge but I think that I would throw that over right now, for a chance to have a tour of the UK to see some of my family, none of whom I have seen since Christmas 2019

I am by nature a spankee but have and am still prepared to switch if the occasion arises. Although I never seek to Top, I am happy to help someone else get to their happy place and I believe that experience on the receiving end helps develop the skills to achieve that

MJ Asked

How about just letting your readers know just a little more about you. I know you are British, but that’s it.

I am afraid that I am not going to answer that one MJ, for the same reason that I do not have an email address on my blog. Some time ago, when this blog got a lot more traffic than it does now, I attracted the attentions of some far right groups in Belgium, who were not happy about my internet activities here. All of the blogs and other internet media that I knew about are gone now, due to anti terrorism laws but with more private platforms available, for example WhatsApp, I cannot be sure that they are not still having bad thoughts towards me and so am not going to hand them, on a plate, my identity. Honestly I think that 999 out of a thousand of these people are just piss and wind but it only takes that one in a thousand nut job to do you harm

I hope that you all enjoyed that. I think that if I do this again next year I will split the answers into two or more posts but it was an interesting project to take part in

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MUSING ABOUT CHICKS WITH DICKS

Or About Pegging To Be More Precise

A post on another blog got me thinking about this. The author, Fondles, informed us about a little anal training that she has been doing, in preparation for some Butt Stuff fun that she is planning. You can read about it via….

THIS LINK

I have not been pegged in over a decade but reading this post brought back some fond memories. I have never asked nor will I ever ask to be pegged but I am happy to accommodate a play partner that wishes to take part in some girl in boy fun, if they are prepared to be sensible about it

Don’t turn up wearing something like this

Unless you want to hear me screaming SAFEWORD!!! Repeatedly. I prefer something of more sensible proportions. Something similar to the size of my own appendage seems fair

That’s more like it

What I Like About Pegging

I think that the best thing about letting a woman penetrate you, is that it is me that is giving her the permission to do so. Which is not only a nice change but represents a high level of submission in my mind. Far more than being spanked, which is a lot more fun but does not have that same level of offering trust of subjugation to someone that letting them fulfil their desire to penetrate you does. And that is why I will only take part in pegging when I am asked to, by the other individual involved, as it is my submitting to their desire that clicks the right buttons in my head.

Position

This is fine

If it is the kind of thing that the woman involved wants. I am happy to go along with this

But this is my favourite position

I like to feel the weight of her body on me and her skin against my skin as I feel her moving against my body. Her hot laboured breath on my shoulders and the noise of her efforts close to my ear. It just makes the experience so more personal, especially if she manages to orgasm from the psychology of the event or with a little mechanical help. It makes me feel like I have served to satisfy

I wonder if something like this could be used?

Or would it be too difficult for her to retain during the act. I have only experienced a butterfly vibrator being used under the pelvic harness but that worked well 🙂

What I Don’t Like about being pegged

Two things. Firstly doing a deep colonic cleanse, I have always found this difficult and it can take me hours to get every thing squeaky clean, sometimes. Secondly having an uncomfortable lump of man-made dildo shoved up where the sun does not shine, although it helps if she is a little rough and makes things a bit painful for me, without causing any damage back there. But I think that it is the second one of these that makes doing this such a significant act of submission for me.

Giving Selfless Gratification To Someone

I have never orgasmed from being pegged and have always refused any offered help to achieve that end, either before or after the event. Although if the female involved reached her high from the event, that makes it perfect for me. Spanking is a lot of fun but it is mostly about the chemical high that it can achieve in my body and mind. Pegging is about achieving the psychological high of getting someone else to the place they want to be whilst giving totally of myself without expecting reward. It is my ultimate act of submissiveness. And that is why I will never be the one asking to do this or have it part of a pay to play.

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SARAH SILVERMAN TALKS ABOUT SPANKING AND HER FOOT FETISH BOYFRIEND

In this interview, American Comedian tells us how her mother found out that she liked to be spanked and about her ex boyfriend who was very fond of her feet

Sarah Silverman Talks About The Kinky Side Of Her Life

There is evidence that she likes bear bottom spankings 🙂

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