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This Is The Cage I Have Now

I have had this little beasty, for more time than I would care to remember. When I got it, it was a pricey, high-end model. You can pick up ones like this pretty cheap now. Although it is still a good, sturdy piece of kit that does the job well. I am not into chastity and denial and except for one occasion, have never worn this for more than a few hours. But in the past it has helped me get play dates with fellow amateurs, which might not have happened otherwise. Having met a potential playmate only a few times, often they can feel a bit nervous about going somewhere private with someone they do not know well enough to trust yet. Throwing this into the mix and the other party knowing that I am rendered harmless to them, indeed reliant on them, to release me has been a deal maker.

So What Is The Problem?

A small problem, is that the pins marked A, in the photo, fit into the sockets marked B. These can be very painful skin pinchers and are difficult to line up. The big problem, though, is that the ring, C, is fixed. I am pretty average in the porcelain pointer department, but my two veg are a little larger than normal. The fixed ring, on this, is 50 mm and is the largest available for this model. It has always been a struggle getting it on, but trying it recently, after not using this for some years, It was somewhat painful to get things to fit (I am sure they are getting bigger, as I age) and it is not hard to imagine that this might be a problem in a pressure on situation. The good feature, that I would like to keep the same, is the small padlock, marked D. These are easily available and some women like to bring their own, to make sure that I do not have a spare key.

The Solutions

I want to get a model with a hinged ring, similar to the ones above, but with no pins and sockets.

This Is The One That I Am Considering

A shop, not too far away from me, is selling this model. It has a hinged ring, no pins and sockets and is considerable lighter, than the one I have now. The weight of my current cage can be an issue, after a couple of hours. I really like the way that this looks, too.

I have only ever owned one Cock Cage, in my life. So if anyone with more experience than me has an opinion on the model above, or recommendations for something else, I would gladly like to hear what you have to say.

All advice welcome



Within the 12 days of Christmas, there is one day that I celebrate every year. The date varies a little from year to year, but it is always marked with the same tradition. This is that day, the first day back to work after the Christmas break. I call it…


After more than a week of getting up when I want, suddenly the alarm goes off at ridiculously dark ‘O’ clock in the morning. That gets the first scream…

This day also marks the end of my Christmas dieting amnesty. So it is out of the warm bed and straight onto the cold weight scales, that have not been used in days and days of lovely foody treats and…

More screaming. Then it is time for morning coffee and find that the relaxing first hour of the day has turned into a ten-minute speed glug of caffeine. And more screaming…

Then it is a rush to find all the things that I need for work and should have put ready the night before, but didn’t. Which results in more screaming…

Then it is out into the dark morning. Realizing, that after all those days when I could snuggle up warm inside, safe from the weather, that I would be spending the rest of the day out in the cold/rain/snow/hail/wind/fourhorsemenoftheapocolipse, or whatever else the world decided to throw at me and there is more screaming…

Now it is time to battle the traffic and make it on time to work, whilst every other driver on the road has either engaged dawdle mode or idiot at the wheel mode. Result more screaming…

And I think that you have got the gist of how I celebrate this day every year. And yes, the screaming goes on all day. Although it might happen on another date, one can’t but help suspect that many others also celebrate screaming day.


At least the screamers in this post are better looking than me, on Screaming Day. 🙂



At The Top Of My Christmas List

Long time readers of this blog might remember that I have an envious eye, for female, submissive spanko counterparts of myself. I am not trans and do not desire to be a woman or anything like that. But there is a feeling that female submissives have things a bit better than us blokes on the receiving end. Which is just, probably a case of “The other sub’s ass is always redder”. But one thing that gets my little green-eyed monster to wake up, is the wonderful wobbliness of the female posterior.

See what I mean. Male behinds never react like that. Even girls with a skinnier caboose can produce a marvellous motion.

The male back side cannot compete with that. Especially during a spanking.

Oh! How wonderful it would be to know that the person spanking me had such a visual cornucopia to view. A woman’s buns are so much more fun to play with, too.

The next spanking would not be nearly so much fun with a boy bum.

Even the lightest tap can reveal riotous ripples

Now I have some letters to write

Dear Father Christmas,

Please, can I have a girl’s behind, to replace my boring boy bottom. I have been a good boy this year.

Signed Prefectdt

Dear Mrs Christmas,

If Father Christmas gives me what I asked for, from him this year, can you help me to test it out. I have been a very bad boy this year.

Signed Prefectdt

Fingers crossed 🙂



Many people will have already christmassified their main rooms of their abodes. But what about the play room or dungeon. Searching the ‘net threw up some good ideas for a kinky Christmas play area. Here are a few to consider getting

Some Ornaments For The Tree

I hope that we can 🙂

If You Have Some Spare Bondage Submissives Lying Around, How About Some Living Decorations

Spanko Wreaths Are Nice But Naughty

After All That Effort, You Will Need A Snack

Remember, Santa Knows If You Made The Effort



Personally, I think that this type of restraining is where Spankos shine, amongst the general BDSM community. Although, it is not exclusive to the Spanko branch of the kinky tree, it is where you will see it the most. It is of course the art of a Top or Dom(me) utilizing their own body to restrict the movements of the submissive that is receiving their attention. So to start, let’s take a look at the all-time classic…

Leg lock

And the same in motion

And a very interesting variation of the leg lock

There are many other forms of body to body control to explore

A bit exclusive to male submissives

And mostly used with female submissives

Reverse straddling looks highly effective

And again in motion

A leg lock around the neck ensures position stability

Kneeling on a recipient works

As does sitting on them

The last one I have for you is a good, old-fashioned foot on the back

I’m sure that there are other methods that I have missed. Do you know of, or have experienced, any other forms of body to body bondage?



Welcome to another in this series of posts. Spankos very often practice their art in a domestic situation, utilizing various locations in their homes and often their everyday furniture as spanking benches or supports. In this edition of this image based exploration of spanking domesticity, let us take a look at……

The Bathroom – Part Two

As promised, this is part two of this post and we will start by taking a look at….

Girls In The Shower

Well of course, any group of females, taking a shower together are obviously going to indulge in some spanking fun. Just ask any heterosexual male fantasist and they will confirm that 🙂

And how could they do that more appropriately than with some towel flicking?

Earning A Spanking In The Bathroom

Easy, just make sure that you are caught in a situation like this

And We Must Take A Look At Alternative Bathroom Punishments

Getting colonic

With a ready supply of water, it is easy to get a submissives attention with an enema

Cleaning duty

Having to clean the bathroom after that, should keep any slave in line. Especially if they have to use their own toothbrush to do it

Mouth soaping

There are no spankees in this world who do not have to be dealt with, after uttering a dirty word

Getting cold in there

With an ice bath

Or a chastising, cold shower

And I Think That Concludes Our Look At Bathroom Punishment Time

I mean, apart from peeing, pooping, getting clean and being punished, whatever else could anyone get up to in the bathroom?