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This week Hermione from HERMIONE’S HEART revealed that her and her other half, Ron, where now the proud owners of a new flogger and asked for advice, for first time flogging in this


I have to admit that I love floggers and being flogged. One of the commenters recommended a video from a BDSM mistress about the use of floggers, which I watched. This video advocated the twirly, BDSM style of flogging and that is worth trying (I’ve tried it) but on the whole I prefer the high impact, punishment style floggings, such as you see in this image.

It just hurts so good πŸ™‚ The best thing about floggers is that there are so many different types, each with their own unique impact sensations. I currently own two floggers and they are very different from each other.

Old Faithful

This one I purchased with the intention of never using it, as it is cheap and poorly made. I just wanted a prop for a vanilla fancy dress party. But it has been used and I love it. It is highly thumpy and despite it’s build quality has never broken. It is one of my favourite toys.

Rubber Hell

This one is a high quality, handmade item that cost a lot of money. It is over a meter long, is made of rubber, gives a pain at a high level and is very stingy. It is just the thing for when a good thrashing is desired.

I did have a third, good quality leather flogger but that was stolen, along with an original Walsall Tawse, during a house move (the thief was right in thinking that I would not report the missing items). This flogger had a whole other sensation of it’s own.

On the whole floggers are great in the range of sensory play that they can give and if you like being on the receiving end of a punishment play and have never been flogged, I recommend that you give it a go one day.

Any way, enough about my love of being flogged. Lets have a bit of flogger fun.

How To Flog Your Pirate

This is nothing serious but a very fun flogging and you have to love their outfits πŸ™‚



I would like to start by saying that I am not into transvestism or transsexualism in any way and I have got nothing against anyone who finds that either of those labels applies to them. But, in the little fantasy world inside my mind, I do often find my self wishing I was of the female persuasion, just for spanking play. It just seems to me that women have it better, as submissives.

Women Have Nicer Bottoms

At some point in most spanking play the undercrackers come down and it is time for the big reveal. But even in my younger and skinnier days I could not have shown someone a sight as glorious as that in the image above. Even guys who spend half their lives at the gym and are sporting buns of steel seldom look so physically artistic. It is just a fact that the female posterior has a greater potential to be hot hot hot.

It’s Easier For Women To Find Play Partners

I’m not saying that it is always easy for a submissive female to find the right play partner but any woman who is looking for a spanking will not find herself short of offers. In the F/m world you find far too many little m’s chasing after far too few big F’s. It’s just the way it is.

Women Are More Flexible Than Men

Or at least they are in their younger guises. I doubt that I could have ever sustained a pose like the one above for the length of time it takes to get a proper whooping. And I was physically pretty flexible for a guy, in my younger days.

Women Look Better In Clothes

Especially uniforms. The male shape is just not a right for things to fit where they should. No matter how careful I am putting a spanking play outfit together I know that it is never going to look as good on me as the equivalent outfit would look on a woman.

Women Won’t Get Labelled For Same Sex Play

A woman can be straight, lesbian or bisexual but no one would automatically conclude that she was any of these just because she was involved in spanking or being spanked by another woman. I do not usually involve sex as part of my spanking play and so have no problems with being spanked by a man, except that some people might label me as gay for doing so. I have nothing against the gay community in the same way as I have nothing against anyone from Spain but I do not want to have anyone presume that I am gay or Spanish, simply because I am neither of these.

I suspect that I am not the only male submissive who is a little jealous of our female counterparts. But perhaps it is just as the parody of the song sung by Petula Clark says

The other subs ass is always redder

That paddle hurts better from the other side

Oh the other subs ass is always redder

Some are lucky, some are not

You’ve gotta be thankful for what you got

Some of the images used in this post came from the blogs linked below





>What to Call Spanking – A Musing

>I thought that I would ease back into blogging with a bit of a musing. I have not done much musing on this blog, perhaps I should do more, perhaps not. The stats will tell me one way or the other.

What to call play

Spanking – This is the commonly excepted word ” I am a spanko, I am into adult spanking”. The thing about this label is that it does tend to bring on mental images of OTK spanking and lighter weight play. When talking people outside of the spanko world, even other kinksters, I am very conscious of the fact that the terms “Spanking” and “Spanko” do tend to have very childish undertones too them and do not convey how seriously we take adult spanking play. This is a very good term for spankos to use with one another because we have experienced the full meaning behind the words but with the rest of the world I’m not convinced anyone will take us seriously if we continually describe our play as spanking. [picture is from Punished Brats and was found at Amber Pixie Wells’ Spanking Journal]

Thrashing – I love being threatened with this word, “Your going to get such a thrashing boy!”, “expect to be thrashed for your actions”, phrases like these send a chill up my spine,they are for me the ultimate in thrilling promises. Some people may find this term a bit too strong for them though and it does suggest the stronger end of the play leaving out the fun and friendly spankings. After all you cannot describe an OTK spanking as a thrashing, it just does not gel. “Thrashing” really is the flip side of “Spanking”, great for describing a certain aspect of play but not much good for describing the whole spectrum of the way that people play. As a “by the way” I’m not 100% sure but I think that this word derives from “Threshing”, the term for separating the grain from the stalk of certain agricultural crops, which before the advent of machinery was done by beating the crop on the floor of a barn. [Picture from Pain4Fem]

Beating – I love this word when actually playing, there is nothing like the feeling that your getting a good beating, when your under the lash of a competent and harsh Lady top. Out side of play this word has too many negative associations “Wife beater”, “Beaten to a pulp”, “Beaten and abused”, the list could go on for a very long time. Personally I feel that this word is best kept as a play word, used in play by people who know there is no negative effects to the way that it is being used between them. Even with other spankos I tend to avoid using this word to describe a play scene, it is definitely a big no no when talking to non spankos. [Picture from Montrose Academy]

CP Role Play – an excellent term to use when describing what we do to vanillas and people from other kinks. Initials always sound serious and technical. It is a pity that we cannot use CPR instead of having words at the end but CPR is of coarse already used for “Cardiopulmonary resuscitation” and confusion must be avoided. This term has a good adult feel to it and helps reflect that we are only interested in spanking amongst consenting adults and takes us away from being associated with the spanking of children, something that I am strongly against. I actually do not feel comfortable using this term with another spanko but when talking to any one else I do like to call myself a CP Role Player, it is descriptive and adult sounding. [Picture from RGE Films ]

Whupping – This is my favorite, a term I believe originates from the USA. It has a nice round friendly feel to it when it is spoken and covers the full range of play from soft to harsh, without foul or favour. “She gave me a good whupping”, “I whupped her butt” it always sounds good, it is IMHO a “whup ass” word. [Picture from Good Spanking]

Have I left anything out?


>The Waterboys – Be My Enemy


The Waterboys – Be my enemy, with Lilo and Stitch animation

This song is the one I associate with spanking and life in general, if I where forced to pick a theme tune for my life this would be it. You’ve got to love the animation too.

Spanking – during the early part of an ass whupping, when it’s just pain, before the magic starts to happen, this is often going through my mind to help me through that part. It doesn’t scan but if it was possible to change the words to “Pretend to be my enemy” this song could represent what I want from a top as well.

In life – This is the philosophy, treat people as they treat you. Treat me well and I will be good back to you, treat me badly and well…listen to the lyrics.

In victory – Well its just a kick ass song isn’t it? One to celebrate to.


>The Vanilla Burn


Or a brilliant bit of vanilla bratting

What do you do with Vanillas? Myself I smoke them, as in the small cigarillos pictured below.

Vanilla smokes

There is no pose factor to this, I smoke them because they are cheaper than cigarettes and taste better than other cheap cigarillos, overly flavoured with liquorice (did you know that about 80% of the world’s liquorice production is used for flavouring tobacco).

This is how the burn happened

A couple of weeks ago I was catching a train but just had enough time to stop at a shop to buy some smokes. having purchased some cigarillos, the shop owner told me that there where also vanilla cigarettes available. Having lots of no smoking laws in restaurants and other places in Belgium, it seemed a good idea to have some vanilla cigarettes, for when I have to pop outside from a place to have a quick smoke (The cigarillos take too long to smoke for a quickie). At the railway station I still had time for a smoke before the train came, so I decided to try the vanilla cigarettes out. I opened the pack to find bright pink cigarettes, pictured below.

Would you smoke these in public?

I thought this was an excellent bit of bratting from someone that, I’m pretty sure, is a vanilla and I had to have a laugh at this. Got to think of some way of getting this guy back though πŸ™‚


>Vegas And $300

>On my very first posting on this blog I did say that I did want it to be mostly Spanking and Kink Related but not 100% so, I am a Hortic so there will be Horticultural tips and plants (oh yes there will be plants). My historical obsessions will undoubtedly turn up from time to time and I would like to tell everybody in the rest of the world a little about the Flemish and life in Flanders. The thing I want to post least about are my philosophies on life but I will occasionally and here is one little reminiscence that turned up.

A couple of weeks ago I was enjoying a drink in a cafe with some friends. One of my friends, another Brit, has been wetting his pants in excitement for a couple of weeks about his first trip to Las Vegas (not for the Shadow Lane party these are Vanilla friends, or at least as far as I know they are) another of my friends, an American, had been to Vegas often and was giving him some tips and tricks about the Casino’s. One of these tips was to get a reader card, when you enter a casino, that you put in the slot machines and keeps a record of how much you have won or lost, so that if you have lost $300 you can prove it to the casino and they will “comp” you lunch, which these two gamblers thought was a good thing. Here I told them that I would spend $30 buying lunch and walk away with $270, whilst doing mental arithmetic on how many pervy DVD’s new toys etc that the money would buy. This got a good laugh from the two gamblers, they thought I did not understand, they where right I did not understand $300 seems like a lot of money to lose to get a “free” lunch. At this point the Flemish lady of our foursome said that she too would buy her own lunch and spend the remaining money buying tickets to all the great shows that she would like to see if she ever got to visit Vegas.

At the end of the day if all four of us where in Vegas starting a bright new day with $300 each to spend we would have split up and done different things with the money, but at the end of the day we would have all enjoyed the cash and we could all meet up to enjoy a good lunch.

You can always find common ground if you look for it.


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