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It is amazing how many facial expressions a good dose of hurt can generate. I thought that it might be fun to explore some of the different ones that you can find. This is by no means all of them. All submissives have dozens of different ones for different types of pain and there are a lot of active submissives in the world and so I think that we are looking at such number of pain faces that it would be impossible to show them all.

A shout out for a short sharp shock

A more prolonged vocal reaction

Sometimes the eyes have to tell the story

Some shocking actions create a more prolonged look of agony

The whole head can be involved

And there are always those brave souls who try to hold back their reaction

I think that Isaac Newton summed it up best when he said “Every action has an equal and opposite reaction” and in our world that reaction is usually some variation on “OUCH!”.




I know this is not going to be the best Christmas for most of us, especially those who have lost loved ones over the past year, to whom I offer my sympathies. Me I am alone and a long way from friends and family. But I intend to do my best to contact all that I can via modern technology and try to make the best of the day that is possible. This may not be the Merriest Christmas ever but try to do something to make it better than it should be. It’s only one year, hopefully things will start to change next year.

So Let’s Pull A Cracker

I do love Christmas crackers but I have no one to pull one with this year, so I thought that I would inflict some awful cracker jokes on you dear reader.

Get ready to groan

Q – What have Winnie The Pooh and Henry The Eighth have in common

A – They both have the same middle name

Q – What is the best Christmas present ever

A – A broken drum, you just can’t beat it

Q – What is Good King Wenceslas’s favourite kind of pizza

A – One that is Deep crust pan and even

Or You Could Try Pulling This Christmas Cracker

It has always been a tradition to watch a Christmas ghost story for my family πŸ™‚



Just Before The Action Begins

You are standing there and you know that in a few moments the spanking will begin. For me, that gets the butterflies a fluttering in my stomach. I do not try to suppress them but nurture the nervous anticipation that they offer. And a good Top or Dom(me) often finds ways of stirring these butterflies into a frenzied storm of flapping wings, even before the first blow strikes.

A steady parade before you, especially with heels clocking on a hard floor makes you wonder what is in store for you

Giving you that look that makes you want to know what plans for your future are going on behind those eyes

Sometimes a shouted order or sometimes a low whisper in your ear sends your imagination whirring

The flexing of a cane or the sound of it swishing through the air promising a severity to it’s anticipated bite of your flesh

Or even the soft brushing of fingers across your body, reminding you of how tender soft and vulnerable your skin feels at that moment

And now those delicate wings are flapping up a hurricane that will not let you breath without trembling




This week Hermione from HERMIONE’S HEART revealed that her and her other half, Ron, where now the proud owners of a new flogger and asked for advice, for first time flogging in this


I have to admit that I love floggers and being flogged. One of the commenters recommended a video from a BDSM mistress about the use of floggers, which I watched. This video advocated the twirly, BDSM style of flogging and that is worth trying (I’ve tried it) but on the whole I prefer the high impact, punishment style floggings, such as you see in this image.

It just hurts so good πŸ™‚ The best thing about floggers is that there are so many different types, each with their own unique impact sensations. I currently own two floggers and they are very different from each other.

Old Faithful

This one I purchased with the intention of never using it, as it is cheap and poorly made. I just wanted a prop for a vanilla fancy dress party. But it has been used and I love it. It is highly thumpy and despite it’s build quality has never broken. It is one of my favourite toys.

Rubber Hell

This one is a high quality, handmade item that cost a lot of money. It is over a meter long, is made of rubber, gives a pain at a high level and is very stingy. It is just the thing for when a good thrashing is desired.

I did have a third, good quality leather flogger but that was stolen, along with an original Walsall Tawse, during a house move (the thief was right in thinking that I would not report the missing items). This flogger had a whole other sensation of it’s own.

On the whole floggers are great in the range of sensory play that they can give and if you like being on the receiving end of a punishment play and have never been flogged, I recommend that you give it a go one day.

Any way, enough about my love of being flogged. Lets have a bit of flogger fun.

How To Flog Your Pirate

This is nothing serious but a very fun flogging and you have to love their outfits πŸ™‚



I would like to start by saying that I am not into transvestism or transsexualism in any way and I have got nothing against anyone who finds that either of those labels applies to them. But, in the little fantasy world inside my mind, I do often find my self wishing I was of the female persuasion, just for spanking play. It just seems to me that women have it better, as submissives.

Women Have Nicer Bottoms

At some point in most spanking play the undercrackers come down and it is time for the big reveal. But even in my younger and skinnier days I could not have shown someone a sight as glorious as that in the image above. Even guys who spend half their lives at the gym and are sporting buns of steel seldom look so physically artistic. It is just a fact that the female posterior has a greater potential to be hot hot hot.

It’s Easier For Women To Find Play Partners

I’m not saying that it is always easy for a submissive female to find the right play partner but any woman who is looking for a spanking will not find herself short of offers. In the F/m world you find far too many little m’s chasing after far too few big F’s. It’s just the way it is.

Women Are More Flexible Than Men

Or at least they are in their younger guises. I doubt that I could have ever sustained a pose like the one above for the length of time it takes to get a proper whooping. And I was physically pretty flexible for a guy, in my younger days.

Women Look Better In Clothes

Especially uniforms. The male shape is just not a right for things to fit where they should. No matter how careful I am putting a spanking play outfit together I know that it is never going to look as good on me as the equivalent outfit would look on a woman.

Women Won’t Get Labelled For Same Sex Play

A woman can be straight, lesbian or bisexual but no one would automatically conclude that she was any of these just because she was involved in spanking or being spanked by another woman. I do not usually involve sex as part of my spanking play and so have no problems with being spanked by a man, except that some people might label me as gay for doing so. I have nothing against the gay community in the same way as I have nothing against anyone from Spain but I do not want to have anyone presume that I am gay or Spanish, simply because I am neither of these.

I suspect that I am not the only male submissive who is a little jealous of our female counterparts. But perhaps it is just as the parody of the song sung by Petula Clark says

The other subs ass is always redder

That paddle hurts better from the other side

Oh the other subs ass is always redder

Some are lucky, some are not

You’ve gotta be thankful for what you got

Some of the images used in this post came from the blogs linked below





>What to Call Spanking – A Musing

>I thought that I would ease back into blogging with a bit of a musing. I have not done much musing on this blog, perhaps I should do more, perhaps not. The stats will tell me one way or the other.

What to call play

Spanking – This is the commonly excepted word ” I am a spanko, I am into adult spanking”. The thing about this label is that it does tend to bring on mental images of OTK spanking and lighter weight play. When talking people outside of the spanko world, even other kinksters, I am very conscious of the fact that the terms “Spanking” and “Spanko” do tend to have very childish undertones too them and do not convey how seriously we take adult spanking play. This is a very good term for spankos to use with one another because we have experienced the full meaning behind the words but with the rest of the world I’m not convinced anyone will take us seriously if we continually describe our play as spanking. [picture is from Punished Brats and was found at Amber Pixie Wells’ Spanking Journal]

Thrashing – I love being threatened with this word, “Your going to get such a thrashing boy!”, “expect to be thrashed for your actions”, phrases like these send a chill up my spine,they are for me the ultimate in thrilling promises. Some people may find this term a bit too strong for them though and it does suggest the stronger end of the play leaving out the fun and friendly spankings. After all you cannot describe an OTK spanking as a thrashing, it just does not gel. “Thrashing” really is the flip side of “Spanking”, great for describing a certain aspect of play but not much good for describing the whole spectrum of the way that people play. As a “by the way” I’m not 100% sure but I think that this word derives from “Threshing”, the term for separating the grain from the stalk of certain agricultural crops, which before the advent of machinery was done by beating the crop on the floor of a barn. [Picture from Pain4Fem]

Beating – I love this word when actually playing, there is nothing like the feeling that your getting a good beating, when your under the lash of a competent and harsh Lady top. Out side of play this word has too many negative associations “Wife beater”, “Beaten to a pulp”, “Beaten and abused”, the list could go on for a very long time. Personally I feel that this word is best kept as a play word, used in play by people who know there is no negative effects to the way that it is being used between them. Even with other spankos I tend to avoid using this word to describe a play scene, it is definitely a big no no when talking to non spankos. [Picture from Montrose Academy]

CP Role Play – an excellent term to use when describing what we do to vanillas and people from other kinks. Initials always sound serious and technical. It is a pity that we cannot use CPR instead of having words at the end but CPR is of coarse already used for “Cardiopulmonary resuscitation” and confusion must be avoided. This term has a good adult feel to it and helps reflect that we are only interested in spanking amongst consenting adults and takes us away from being associated with the spanking of children, something that I am strongly against. I actually do not feel comfortable using this term with another spanko but when talking to any one else I do like to call myself a CP Role Player, it is descriptive and adult sounding. [Picture from RGE Films ]

Whupping – This is my favorite, a term I believe originates from the USA. It has a nice round friendly feel to it when it is spoken and covers the full range of play from soft to harsh, without foul or favour. “She gave me a good whupping”, “I whupped her butt” it always sounds good, it is IMHO a “whup ass” word. [Picture from Good Spanking]

Have I left anything out?