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PILLOW HUGGING AND SPANKING

It’s A Thing I Do

At the start of a spanking, before the magic dust starts filling my mind and it just hurts and I am thinking “Why the hell do I do this”, If there is a pillow or cushion within reach I tend to grab it and hug it to my chest, like in the photograph below.

I am not sure why, but I find it comforting and it helps me get through the part when the pain is horrible, that you need to go through, before the pain becomes good and all that I want it to be.

Sometimes this is not possible

As you might need your hands and arms to stop your head banging of the floor, when OTK.

And other types of hugs are nice, after a spanking

Some spankees prefer to have something to grab, rather than hug. Sofa cushions are excellent for this, as is illustrated in…

This Photo

Or in this GIF

But I think that I have found my ultimate spanking cushion to hug

Here it is

Just think of all the hugging options, that it can offer

It’s time to go shopping 🙂

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HOW TO BUILD A SPANKING CHAPEL – OR A GREAT ROOM THAT WAS AT THE CHÂTEAUX OF THE PRINCE’S OF CHIMAY

The Surprising Little Church At The Châteaux In Chimay

Whilst on my recent travels, there was an opportunity to visit the princely castle of Chimay. Which is in a beautiful little town in Wallonia of the same name, famous for its beer, cheese and being the last non-royal principality of Belgium. The castle was gutted by fire in 1935, losing much of its Baroque furniture and interior decoration. Over the last few decades, some rooms have been restored to their former glory, including…

The Chapel

Which is a very pretty place for Catholic worship. But the more that I looked around, the more that images like…

This

Started to flash into my imagination. It became clear to me that, some hundreds of years ago, someone had said, to a baroque interior designer, “Build Me A Spanking Church”.

The Prayer Kneelers

The first of these, that I noticed, were these

Excellent for kneeling on to receive a back flogging or bending over the other way for a holy birching. Just a nice height for either of these activities and comfortably padded…

Unlike Some Others That I have Seen

But when I turned around…

There Were Some Even Better Ones

That were far more sturdy, solid and unlikely to move around during a severe punishment of a sinner, under the torment of a holy lash. And even more…

One For Chastising A Pair Of Sinners At The Same Time

And then I noticed the general seating of the chapel which were just the right size, height and shape to be…

Padded Birching Benches

Which could easily be used…

Like This

Or This

I suppose you have to have a spankos mindset to see what the designer had in mind, when furnishing this Chapel. But there are some spiritual spankos out there who need a friendly place to pray and play, sometimes. Perhaps this is the place for them.

🙂

This post was inspired by the Netflix series

HOW TO BUILD A SEX ROOM

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HOW TO BUILD A SEX ROOM

A New Netflix Series With Some Kinky Twists

How To Build A Sex Room, is a new Netflix series. I am not going to pretend that I have seen it all, but from the episodes that I have seen, have been fun and entertaining.

The Series Trailer

Post update – This video was not age restricted when I scheduled this post. You can see it directly, without signing in to YouTube, by going to the Netflix official webpage for this show, that is reachable through a link at the end of this post.

The series revolves around Melanie Rose, an ex actor, who has been practising interior design, for about 20 years.

And she has found a talent for decorating the most interesting rooms in houses. This series follows her, as she designs fun play places for couples.

An Interview With Melanie Rose

Not all the rooms involve, bondage and floggers, although this is entertaining too, giving an insight into varying people, with varying tastes and approaches to the physical side of their relationships.

And the varying items that might include.

Being a Spanko does tend to make me enjoy the episodes with spanking play and BDSM in mind

Even seeing one couple being encouraged to further investigate the kinky play, that they had already started experimenting with themselves.

Whilst another couple was helped to find new ways of exploring the vanilla side of their intimacy.

I had planned to finish the series and then do a review of it. But I realized that with my normal TV diet consisting of Drama, Comedy and History documentaries, I had very little to compare this to. Normally, I never watch reality makeover programs. Which in itself is an endorsement of this series, as it has taken me outside my normal viewing comfort zone and I am still enjoying it.

It has also given me a few extra ideas to include, should I ever have the opportunity to build my fantasy play room 🙂

A few links to sites related to this show

THE OFFICIAL NETFLIX SHOW SITE

THE WEBSITE OF MELANIE ROSE

A REVIEW OF THE SERIES FROM A PROPER JOURNALIST

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GETTING SPANKED AND CANED BY ALEXIA – AND A MINI REVIEW

And I Did Get A Good Caning 🙂

A few weeks ago, I had a very satisfying pay to play That I told you about in

THIS POST

Unfortunately, at that time, I forgot to ask permission to tell about it properly, on this blog and I never play and tell without permission. The person who spanked me, impressed me so much, that I decided to seek her out once more and she spanked me again, but this time I did get her permission to blog about the experience.

Getting Spanked By Alexia

That is a photo of her, from the internet, with her trademark leg bands. She works from the red-light district in Antwerp and does offer intimate services as well, but I did not partake of those services, preferring to get spanked more. Although very slender, she does have strong arms and the ability to hand spank hard, as well as weal toys with a gusto. Although, she does not really have much by the way of weapons of ass destruction. This time I took my special belt again and some pervertables. So she could have a good go at walloping my rear end, and she did, with most satisfying results. One of those toys I will be reviewing at the end of this post. For the first part of my chastisement, I was laid face down on a bed, whilst all hell was let loose on my rear end with the pick and mix of toys that I had taken with me. And most enjoyable that was too 🙂

And Then I was Caned

I also took a short, German style peeled cane with me, that I can bend and fit into a regular backpack. For the second half of the spanking I was bent over, freestanding, supporting myself on the sides of the bed and then was caned.

That GIF is not myself and Alexia playing together, but it does give an idea of how it went. Alexia is not that experienced with spanking toys, but she listened well to what I asked of her and delivered a memorable and satisfying caning. I did get caned last year, but that did not go so well. Alexia handed out, what felt like, the best caning that I have had in years, despite her limited experience. I hope that she gets more practice at the disciplinarian arts. She is very good at it now. With more experience and maybe a little training, I suspect that she could become excellent in the art of Topping. Now for a review of a pervertable that I took with me, for this playtime.

MY Dogging Strap, A Mini Review

The Strap

This is a short but sturdy decorated strap, measuring 30 centimetres long, 3 centimetres wide and 4 millimetres thick. It is small and easily portable. You can read about where I obtained it through

THIS LINK

In Play

This was the first time that I have been spanked with this strap and it surprised me. I was expecting it to be a convenient, OTK strap, much like any other, but it was not. Despite its short length, it was incredibly painful and had a sensation that felt more like being cut than strapped, although it did not break my skin, it felt like it was. It was a challenge to take and had a brutal impact that its visual appearance would not suggest. It was difficult but satisfying to be spanked by this. I think that it might take a bit of getting used to, though.

The Report Card

This strap did its job better than was expected and added a new sensation to the spanking mix, in a severe way. It has earned a good, solid B plus.

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SPANKING THERAPY, HOW CAN IT HELP?

Spanking Used In Medical Therapy

Thanks to Mitch Philbin, of All Things Spanking, for doing a post about this. To See the post and get a link to the genuine, medical article, please follow the link below

SPANKING THERAPY AT ALL THINGS SPANKING

I thought that it might be fun to pick a few statements from the article and illustrate them, with photographs and GIFs, for your enjoyment.

Spanking therapy uses spanking as a form of release. People may choose to take part in spanking therapy to release stress and responsibility, explore power roles, or work through negative emotions or trauma.

Spanking therapy may be an option for anyone of an appropriate age to take part in consensual BDSM practices.

People may wish to find a spanking therapist or learn how to safely carry out spanking therapy with a partner.

What is the purpose of spanking therapy?

Power play: People may find it sexually arousing to play with power roles, such as becoming dominant or submissive. Others may also find it freeing to release responsibility and power in a controlled environment.

Stress release: Individuals may find similar benefits from spanking therapy as those from mindful activities, such as meditation.

The authors also note that some scientific theories suggest that SM practices, such as spanking, may help some people heal from trauma.

Spanking therapy is not necessarily sexual, and some people may see it in a similar way to other forms of physical therapy. Others may see it as a more ritualistic experience.

If that has you interested, you can follow the link below, to go directly to the article

SPANKING THERAPY IN MEDICAL NEWS TODAY

Or try this more in depth article from 2020

WHAT IS SO APPEALING ABOUT BEING SPANKED

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I DIDN’T GET SPANKED AND THEN I DID GET SPANKED – AND A MINI REVIEW

Happy To Report, I Got A Properly Harsh Butt Whupping

That is not me in the image above, that is just there as an illustration

A spanking did not happen

I went away on a little trip, just over a week ago, to meet up with someone who might have been a potential play partner, but that fell through. Not the first time that has happened this year.

And then a spanking did happen

Feeling frustrated and needing what I have not had for some time now, a jolly good bottom warming, instead I managed to hastily arrange a pay to play. I cannot go into too much detail about that, as permission of the spanker was not obtained. She probably would have given permission, but I was so high, at the end of the spanking, that I just plain forgot to ask her.

Although the person concerned does not usually hand out bottom spankings (this was arranged in a very short time), she had experience in other forms of BDSM impact play and these skills transferred well to the activity of spanking. I got the hardest and most enjoyable spanking that I have had in about four years. It was bliss. And the special belt that I have, got it’s first proper usage. There will be a mini review of that at the end of this post. If you want to know more about the belt, click on the following link.

AN EXPENSIVE PERVERTABLE

And I got marks

Yup, that horrible hairy thing is my battered butt 🙂 It was strange how they came about, though. I have not had markings like this since about 2008 and these did not appear straight away. On the day, my rear end was swollen and very pink. The next day it was swollen but had returned to its normal colour. On day three, the bruises appeared and it is still a little bruised now, but almost fully recovered.

The last time that I started marking again, was when I changed medication for my thick blood syndrome, in 2007 and that lasted for a little over a year. About 18 months ago, my medication was changed to a very new product, Xarelto. Perhaps this explains why I am marking again. It is a little puzzling that the bruising took over 48 hours to appear, though.

It was so nice to have a visual memento of the event, for a change 🙂

My Special Belt, A Mini Review

The Belt

This is a handcrafted, old-fashioned type of leather. 120 cm long, 4 cm wide and 4 mm thick. It is heavy and very stiff.

In Play

It was, mostly, used doubled over and swung with considerable force from a standing position, I could see the person wealing it in a mirror. The impact had a lot of thump and created some noticeable deep muscle trauma, that lasted for about four days after the spanking. Surprisingly, it created a high amount of sting, as well. Although I have been spanked with this before, it was only lightly. On this occasion, it lived up to its wonderfully brutal potential.

Conclusion

I am glad that I spent the money on this 🙂

The report card

This belt excelled in its task, proving to be both thuddy and stingy at the same time, whilst leaving a lasting impression on the individual on the receiving end. This belt gets a solid A. Well done.

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